Master Choa Kok Sui said, “Forgiveness is not a matter of who is right or wrong. It is a matter of doing the right thing.”

There are many of us who know about forgiveness – we know about its benefits, what happens when we harbor prolonged resentment and what happens when we let go. But not all of us know how to forgive.

It’s not always easy to forgive, forget and move on, especially if the negative memories linger. These can have a destructive effect on our health, relationships, and even finances. Whether it’s petty or massive, the key is to be able to release the pain and anger from within our system. This brings freedom and inner peace, otherwise we might end up becoming dry and bitter.

So how can we overcome the negative experiences and memories, and learn to continue loving and living?

In the case of relationships, it has been observed that a great deal of hatred is possible if there was a greater deal of love or expectation to begin with. Most of the time, we get hurt by our loved-ones and the people who are close to us rather than strangers, and the reason is our close interactions with them. When two people get closer, friction increases!

The key here is to increase the love.

“When two people interact closely, there is friction. The lubricant is Love – in the form of Loving Thoughts, Loving Feelings, Loving Words and Loving Actions.” Master Choa Kok Sui
So how do we increase the love?

Change your focus away from the negatives. Spend 5 minutes every day thinking about the good qualities of the person (or people) that hurt you. Think of their good traits and what they did to make you like them. For every negative quality of theirs, list 5 good qualities.

It may be difficult in the beginning, but stick with it. When there is love, there will be more openness and more forgiveness.